Moving In With Your Partner

8 years ago
2 minutes

Everyone seems to be doing it.

It’s a big moment in your relationship, and your life. But moving in with your partner can be great for your relationship, or throw it into pieces.

There can be immense pressure on the two of you to consolidate your possessions, especially when all your friends are moving in with their partners, but people move at a different pace - so fret not, and follow these tips to find out whether it is a good idea or not.

Don’t feel pressured.

Relationships are by no means simple, even Forrest Gump and Jenny Curran had their fair share of ups and downs.

The question you must ask is, at what stage in your relationship are you, and what will work best for both of you? 

Each person acts, feels and portrays themselves differently, and under the magnifying glass of living together, tension is often exacerbated by the exaggeration of living in close-quarters.

Ask yourself these questions:

-How long have you been in your relationship and under what circumstances?

-This is a defining question - but again, it all varies. Some can live together almost straight away, whereas others need little, if any, time at all. 

-Previous to this, have you been predominantly living at home, or at your partner’s, and is there an expectation to stay at one or the other?

-Will living with your significant other work with your personality, or are you extremely reliant on your own alone time? 

-Let’s face it, sharing a home with someone will save you money. Instead of two mortgage repayments or rents, it will be one. Suffice to say, sharing a home with your partner will save you not only in repayments, but also bills, groceries and other living expenses.

It’s a big decision to move in together; so make sure you both want it, and that all questions are raised and addressed.

It can take some getting used to, but if you can work it out, you'll ultimately be in a living position that is healthy and happy.